Mr and Mrs Perfect

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Surely we've all been asked or have asked someone about their ideal man or ideal woman only to hear the familiar pick-up lines; "Oh, I want a man that is tall, dark and handsome, rich, God-fearing.... " or "I want a slim, light-skinned girl with skin shining like butter...." Anyways you get the point.

There are far too many people who are so concerned about their future spouse being "perfect" but I can't help but wonder if these people are actually preparing themselves for "Mr/Mrs right. If you want to marry someone "perfect", you have to be working towards perfection yourself. You cannot expect to marry a hardworking man while you lazy around doing nothing without adding value to yourself. On the other hand, a lot of guys are looking for a lady who would care for them expertly like their mum. (I laugh in Greek). Newsflash! There would be no care if you're not taking responsibility by providing for your family and I don't mean just paying tuition fees for your children. I could give several instances but I'm sure you get the gist.

Relationships are for people to compliment each other. You've probably heard the saying "great minds think alike". To find someone great, you must be working towards greatness yourself and you cannot give what you do not have. Whilst you're looking for someone who is 'already-made', ensure you're investing in yourself. Simply put; you have no right to anything if you are not ready to be responsible.

I've heard people ask why people of the same social status tend to inter-marry. More specifically, why rich people marry each other. Now think about it this way; why would anyone want a person who brings nothing but baggage to the table? If you are on the same page as someone, it makes the journey ahead easier because you're working in the same direction.Just imagine how time-consuming and mind-draining it will be to work with someone going in the opposite direction. Like every other binding contract, in marriage you have to be suitable for the role or else, the relationship is heading for destruction before it even starts.

My point is; if you're looking for someone who is God-fearing... How much do you really fear God? If you're looking for someone to care for you and love you... how caring are you and how far are you willing to go for love? Are you willing to do the same things you expect from someone else? The problem with many relationships is that most people are looking for what they have to gain rather than what they can offer. No one wants to serve but want to be served. Relationships are for people who are selfless, willing to be hurt, forgive and sacrifice over, over and over again. Until, you get to the point where you fully understand this, please do not go making life-long commitments that would harm our society. If all you want as an individual is to take advantage of someone else rather than leave an impact, that is wickedness.

It is disheartening the kind of society I wake up to everyday and I cringe for my children's lives. Mediocrity is now the order of the day and values are out the window. Nowadays it is so hard to find a genuine business partner much more a life-partner. People have eaten their consciences but how can you blame them when a lot of parents have encouraged it? Teach your children how to be responsible and be firm about it. From the age of 3, Children can be responsible... stop assuming your child needs to be spoon-fed every time. Oh, and just cos you faced hard times growing up doesn't mean you should spoil your child rotten. The only person hard-work has ever killed is- No-one! Start by buying them a puppy, or flowers which they must cater for then gradually add more responsibilities. The child you are raising is not just your son but someone's husband and father so please raise him well. No one wants to marry a spoiled, lazy, over-grown child. If your child is a bad father or husband just imagine how many lives revolved around your child would be subjected to a life of suffering.

Family is the bedrock of every society. If you're a parent, the hope of a future generation lies in your hands. Please do not fail us. If you are hoping to be a parent... Family is a call to serve. A call to implement values in those placed under your care not a ticket to greatness where you marry because you want to get a divorce and go away with 50% or a place where you act as commander-in-chief of your household. I do not want to believe I am the only one tired of a generation with misplaced priorities. More than ever, we place a demand for responsible parents and spouses.

On behalf of everyone sick and tired of a mediocre-accepting generation,
we are drained, tired and crying for help.
I humbly rest my case.

"...And whoever would be first among you must be slave of all. For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many"- Mark 10:44-45.

Love,
Pee.

P.S:
Happy Birthday Snr.Pastor Dayo Olutayo. May God's anointing upon your life never run dry.

Have an amazing rest-of-the week! :)