For The Love Of Family

Image courtesy of Laura Delle Donne.

For the love and hope of the very priceless institution called Family, I thought it would be necessary to bring up this issue...

As I get older, I realise that  more and more young people either do not have positive views about marriage, doubt the possibility of having a healthy marriage or just have a very wrong approach to marriage in general. Divorce is on the increase, younger ladies are settling for the "side chick" title or dating married men and younger guys are looking for girls with rich fathers to be married to or rich women old enough to be their mothers because they see it as the ladder to greatness. Most times these people are blamed for their poor-thinking mindset but in actuality, it involves more than just the individual and I have come to understand that is more or less environmental and a fault in the foundation or upbringing.

I am a  big fan of the "Steve Harvey show". Simply because Steve Harvey is extremely funny and he gives some expert fatherly advice. In one of the episodes, he said "I always tell my sons not to enter the car before their sisters...they've got to learn how to be protective of the women in their lives". Being a parent is never easy I mean; life does not come with a parenting manual that says "How To Be An Awesome Mum/Dad" or "Parenting 101". I have to give kudos to parents around the world because it really is a full-time job which you can never resign from. However, parenting is one job that requires continuous evaluation and upgrading because every child sees their parent as the mirror through which they view the world. Therefore, if you are a parent or hoping to be a parent, I cannot emphasise how important it is for you to teach your child(ren) marriage/family values. If you have really young children, consider yourself lucky because you've still got time. If you are not yet a parent,-even better! you have a lot of time to do things right.

Fathers; PLEASE teach your daughter(s) how to identify true love from a man. Remind her that her body is priceless and should never be used as a bait to prove her love. Let her know that she is a queen and should carry herself as one so she will be treated as one. Providing for your children is good, but spending more time to instill values in them will make them responsible adults in future. When a Father provides this type of knowledge to his daughter(s), it gives her the confidence she needs to approach relationships with the right mindset. She grows to understand that she is important and treats herself with respect. The reason a lot of young, single ladies stick to married men is not exactly because they enjoy it, but because they are frantically searching for the love of a father. If you spend time bonding with your daughter(s) you'll be saving her a lifetime of disaster, confusion and regrets. May I also add dear father(s) that it is not enough to tell your daughter about love. Love is an action word. It is something you show rather than say (nothing wrong with saying it, but show it!). plus, the best way to show love to your child(ren) is by loving their mother. Children learn by observation. You cannot offer what you do not have.
Mothers; PLEASE teach your son(s) how to show love to his wife. Let him know that she is God's gift to him and he must learn to protect and love her. By protecting her, he only protects himself. He also needs to know that he owes his love to just one woman; loving her in a million ways rather than loving a million women. Tell him that being a gentle, loving and hardworking man never goes out of style. Every woman wants to associate with a successful man. Providing your son(s) this type of knowledge enables him treat women with respect rather than see them as a tool to be used. He grows to understand that his wife is a blessing to him not the person he should compete with or command.

I will leave you with something to think about; Spending money on your children is great but spending more time investing values is better. The more time you invest in your children, the less money you'll need to spend fixing their problems in future.


If you would like to share a pressing topic, share your success or your pain or just seek advice, why not email me: paulineodoje@yahoo.com; paulineodoje@gmail.com.

Plus; A very Happy Birthday in advance to my very special friend Esther Adeniji and a Happy 11th year anniversary to my Church GoodTidings Bible Church International. #Team4thOfNovember!

Have an awesome week!